Five signs you’re dating a con artist

  • PublishedOctober 7, 2017

Recently Twitter went ablaze when a woman shared how her ex had turned out to be a scammer after she had invested so much in their relationship. Here’s how you can spot a con artist

They’re always asking for money 

This is probably the most obvious sign; con artists always have a reason as to why you should lend them money, which they claim they’ll repay. This includes you always having to settle your lunch or dinner bill, or having to “chip in” a huge amount because it’s time for them to finally launch his long-awaited business venture – which they need capital for. They usually have a sketchy financial status, which requires you to constantly dig in your purse

They provide too many details 

Author Gavin De Becker, cited in Business Insider, says that every con artist aims to distract you from what he’s trying to achieve, so they’ll provide you with countless explanations of everything, which should be a sign of their malicious intent.

“When people are telling the truth, they don’t feel doubted, so they don’t feel the need for additional support in the form of details. When people lie, however, even if what they say sounds credible to you, it doesn’t sound credible to them, so they keep talking,” De Becker says.

Con artists dress and ‘look’ like success

There’s no denying that social media envy is a real thing. You look at someone’s Instagram page and immediately become envious of their lifestyle, relationship, or even their circle of friends. Social media is now so entrenched in our lives, that it’s difficult to not feel somewhat inferior when the next person looks like they have it together.

The lesson: Instagram or Snapchat profiles and posts aren’t an indication of doing well or success. Don’t believe everything you see.

They’re charming and charismatic 

Con artists are smooth operators, merely because they’re trying to win you over and gain your trust. An article in Business Insider explains that con artists will instantly try charm you so that you aren’t suspicious about their true intentions.

In addition, be cautious of him promising you things you havent asked for. According to De Becker, promises are “the very hollow instruments of speech,” as they indicate that someone is trying to convince you of/into somethimg.

Things move very quickly 

If it feels like it’s too good to be true, then it probably is. According to Cafe Mom, one of the signs you’re dating a con artist could be him wanting to move quickly into a relationship. He may even pop the question, or ask you to move in with him, so he’s able to get what he wants from you.

If you’re asking yourself questions like: “Is this the right person for me? Am I ready to be with this person forever? Am I making the right decision?”, it could mean that he may not be the one for you.

Article First seen at Destiny Connect

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