Give yourself a relationship audit

It’s easy to drift into settling for whatever is going on in your love life, whether you are in a long-term relationship or single or in a mediocre partnership. If you want to find happiness, don’t accept to be in an unsatisfactory relationship. Do something about it now.

It’s easy to drift into settling for whatever is going on in your love life, whether you are in a long-term relationship or single or in a mediocre partnership. If you want to find happiness, don’t accept to be in an unsatisfactory relationship. Do something about it now.

To start evaluating your relationship, ask yourself the following three questions: 1) Am I truly content as I am? 2) Does my relationship situation nourish me and boost my confidence? 3) Do I feel stimulated, content and stable?

Your answers to these questions will review the state of your love life. Even the most solid relationships have different phases, and you don’t necessarily need to panic if things have been a bit stale for a while – or you haven’t had a date in months. Ask yourself these questions every so often and give yourself honest answers so you can stay aware of how things are. Once you have done a self-evaluation, try these tips to keep your love life focussed:

See yourself as a lover. You don’t have to wait for a partner to make you happy, even when you are in a good relationship. When you feel like your love life needs a boost, treat yourself to a gorgeous pampering in the spa, take time to do your makeup, buy yourself a gift, and put on your favourite outfit.  Being happy with how you look is an instant confidence boost.

Try something different. If you are single and looking, don’t sit in your apartment waiting for a knock on the door. It will not happen. Sign up for things you have never done before to keep yourself busy and open yourself to meeting new people, for example, a course you’ve never done before such as dancing or painting. Or join the gym or a walking group. If you are a couple, go on a date with a difference, for example, camping or picnicking or join an activity such as dancing – salsa is excellent for couples. A new experience is great for opening you up to new possibilities.

Talk it over. If things are really bothering you, get them out into the open. Sit down with your partner and raise your concerns. Don’t accuse, and make sure you listen to your partner’s response. Don’t bottle up your feelings because it only goes to sour the relationship. Relationship counselling can help if you are not getting anywhere. If you are reluctantly single, a therapist could help you unpack the blocks that may be stopping you from finding someone.

Discover your life’s purpose…

You are the one and only you. Only you can make the contribution you came here on earth to make. Your combination of special talents is unique and irreplaceable. You have come for a special purpose – to fulfill your life’s work. Have you discovered your life’s work? The feelings that come with fulfilling your life’s purpose include: aliveness, high energy, high self-esteem, harmony, interest, enjoyment and satisfaction. You will know if you are not doing your life’s work because you will feel dissatisfied, incomplete, low in self-esteem, low in energy, and generally out of sorts. These feelings indicate that you have wandered from your path and you need to get back on course.

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