You had all it planned out. By now you should have been married, gotten your first car and earning a fat salary. None of that is happening. Your peers’ lives are moving on well. You are tired of being broke, paying rent and working at a job that pays you so little, you can barely save anything. How can you move from this state?

You keep asking, when will my big break come? But the truth is, it is not yet time to get married, or own your home or move to the top of your career ladder. You are in the middle zone where the initial enthusiasm and energy to achieve that goal has subsided, but you still have a long way to go to accomplish your desired goal.

However, even though you feel like giving up on those dreams, it’s important to remember that there is no fun in arriving at your destination, but there is great joy in the process. You learn a lot, accept and improve yourself in the process, so be patient and trust the process.

But how do you trust the process when you have experienced so many setbacks and disappointments? We tell you how.

Accept where you are right now

Learn to accept that in life, there are going to be lows and highs and you have to embrace them all. So instead of resisting what is happening in your life, start being in a state of allowing life to happen. You may not be where you want to be right now, but it doesn’t mean you won’t get to where you wish to be in life.

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Keep a positive attitude and avoid comparison

Avoid focusing on the negative things happening in your life. Instead, pay attention to the good things or the positive changes that you are making and you will feel at peace. Stop demanding perfection. You have to be gentle with yourself and realise that you are doing the best you can.

Resist comparing yourself with others unless it’s for inspiration. Because if you keep comparing yourself with others, you will always feel like you are behind. Remember that everybody is running a different race because we are all here in this life for different reasons. So, find the courage to walk your unique path and stay focused on where you are going.

Good things take time

If you want to achieve a specific body type, you will not get it after only a week of workout and eating healthy. After several months of consistently working out and eating a healthy diet, you will begin to see results. If you are teaching yourself a new skill, it will take 10,000 hours of practice to master that skill. To attain a degree, you will need to study for an average of four years before you can graduate.

The common denominator here is time. Therefore, we have to trust that process of growth so that in the end we can see the desired results.

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Visualise success

When you have very ambitious goals, you can begin to doubt whether you will achieve them. However, trusting the process involves acknowledging but ignoring those inner thoughts of doubt and visualising success. Believe that you will achieve that goal and start working towards it.

Only worry about the things that you can control

Don’t pay too much attention to what you cannot control. For example, if you have your own business, you cannot control the amount of the money you take home. But you can control the amount of effort and investment you put into your business to help you succeed.

Stay committed

As you remain patient and trust the process, remember to stay committed to your goal. If you consistently put in the effort to achieve that goal, the results will be amazing. However, if you put in partial or no efforts you won’t achieve your goal.