“Every man cheats.”
It is a statement that has set social media ablaze.
From heated debates on X and TikTok to discussions on WhatsApp groups and radio stations, Kenyans are once again asking one of the most controversial relationship questions: Are men naturally wired to cheat?
The conversation gained momentum following the release of Netflix’s trending South African drama The Polygamist, which follows the complicated double life of businessman Jonasi Gomora and the women caught in his web of betrayal. The show has become a talking point across Kenya, with viewers debating whether it reflects reality or merely dramatises it.
Adding fuel to the fire, popular radio personalities Maina Kageni and Mwalimu King’ang’i recently tackled the issue on Classic 105, where some callers boldly claimed that “every man cheats,” while others strongly disagreed. Some even jokingly suggested that women who want faithful partners should “date blind men,” remarks that quickly spread online.
But is infidelity really inevitable?
The dangerous power of generalisation
Relationship experts warn against sweeping statements.
While cases of cheating are common and stories of betrayal often dominate headlines, saying that all men cheat ignores millions of men who remain faithful to their partners and marriages.
Perhaps the better question is not whether all men cheat, but why infidelity happens in the first place.
Why people cheat
Cheating is not exclusive to men.
Researchers and therapists point to several reasons behind infidelity, including poor communication, emotional disconnection, unresolved conflicts, unmet expectations, lack of intimacy, opportunity, and personal insecurities.
Others argue that changing dating culture, social media, and the normalisation of side relationships have made commitment more challenging than ever.
Social media’s influence
Platforms such as TikTok, Instagram, and dating apps have changed how people connect.
At the same time, they have made temptation more accessible and relationships more vulnerable.
Some young people admit that the constant exposure to alternative partners and unrealistic expectations has affected how they approach commitment.
Are faithful men becoming invisible?
Ironically, stories about loyal husbands and committed partners rarely go viral.
Drama sells.
Scandals trend.
Betrayal attracts attention.
As a result, society may sometimes create the impression that infidelity is universal when, in reality, healthy and faithful relationships exist all around us.
So, do all men cheat?
The answer is simple: No.
Just as not all women are the same, neither are all men.
Reducing an entire gender to one stereotype risks normalising unhealthy behaviour and discouraging those who genuinely value commitment.
Perhaps the bigger challenge facing modern relationships is not proving whether men cheat, but learning how couples can build trust, communicate honestly, and create relationships strong enough to withstand the pressures of today’s world.
Because while cheating may be common, it should never be considered inevitable.
And perhaps love deserves better than that.
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