How to Heal From Heartbreak

There are those of us lucky enough to have known love and to have given in to its design. The seasons involved and the new beginnings and endings. But even in the midst of new beginnings, how are we able to heal from heartbreak?

The past, though rich, is an unhealthy space to dredge in. Like water, our habits and aspects must act repeatedly; otherwise, we too risk staying stagnant.

Keep That Distance

Seeing someone almost always after a messy breakup, rejection, or separation is rigorous on the will. Memories keep flooding back, and despite the measure of linear time, it sends you back to the moments your heart shattered. Before you were sure nothing would ever be the same. Taking that proactive step to limit shared contact is a bold first step in the right direction. Staying away is equally important. This does not mean that you should shy away from your schedule.

Kill the Character Assassination

It would be so easy if everyone who broke our hearts were the villain and we were the tragic hero. Generalizing one gender, demographic, or ethnic group over passionate heartache alienates us from cold, hard reality. It doesn’t undo the unrequited romance or broken promises. It just prolongs your tenure in the past.

Don’t Go It Alone

Human beings are social creatures in an age where pairing is swipes and flicks away. It is easy to forget that some bonds are not so easily attained. That or they might precede even our most core experiences. Looking to friends and family in times when we are most vulnerable may be trying, but it will be a grounding experience.

Take that Bold Step…Whatever it May Be

Remember what I said about that water…don’t stay stagnant. Look to the future and rest assured, beautiful waves will cascade gently onto your fine pearly shores.