How to know you have found the one

How to know you have found the one
  • PublishedJune 24, 2021

There are a few qualities that good partners and relationships tend to have in common, right from the start. Below are some subtle signs that you’ve found your person.

They genuinely like you and are not just after sex

Being able to express positive feelings toward each other helps you get past awkward moments, recover from spats, and reassure each other that your love is still strong, your forever person should feel comfortable being affectionate toward you and not just because they’re looking to have sex.

You are okay to be bored in their company.

You know you met the one when you both feel comfortable doing absolutely nothing together. It’s easy to feel the chemistry in the early phases of dating because you’re always doing something exciting or different together. The true test of compatibility is if you’re happy doing the simple things together like grocery shopping or folding laundry

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You love being together but have a separate life outside your relationship

The best pairings are the ones where both partners feel secure enough with each other to support their partner’s passions outside of the relations

Whether you’re picking up a new hobby or hanging out with friends and family, you’re growing as an individual and bring that sense of self and growth back into your relationship.”

You can be vulnerable around them.

A person who’s worth your time will be gentle with your “enduring vulnerability”. You know you’ve found a keeper when you’re vulnerable enough to share your hidden hurts and pains and they handle that information with care and empathy. Also, once they’re privy to that information, they don’t use it against you; they use their words to build you back up.

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They care about your opinions, and you care about theirs.

It doesn’t matter if you’re talking about politics, that day’s horoscope, or what your weird uncle Joe said after one too many drinks at Christmas, when you share your thoughts, your special other really wants to hear them. The same is true for you. You’re genuinely interested in your partner’s opinion. (Even if you disagree, you like having an exchange of ideas.)

A person who asks for and listens to your opinions and feelings and better yet, who remembers what you say and builds on it later is someone you know you can communicate with.

You fight fair

A true sign of a lasting relationship isn’t a lack of arguments, it’s knowing how to resolve those inevitable clashes. Relationships are not always going to be in the honeymoon phase, but the difference between a failed relationship and your forever relationship is how you handle conflict together.

The minute you start to blame each other turn against each other and is the moment you stop operating as a team. On the other hand, discussing different perspectives in a way that is open and healthy can bring you closer together.

The goal isn’t to never fight; it’s to fight fair and constructively resolve your disagreements.

In a nutshell…

Marriage is one of the areas you do not want to make a mistake. Therefore, it is important to pay extra attention when choosing who to settle with. Unfortunately, the process is not very easy. Luckily, with just a few tips of identifying the right person, the process becomes much easier.

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