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When friendship turns to Romance

When friendship turns to Romance
  • PublishedAugust 21, 2024

The line between friendship and romance can be both exhilarating and confusing. When feelings of affection blossom in close friendship, there is always the dilemma of maintaining the bond in the interactions we have with friends and exploring something more.

While the latter is possible, it is a very challenging stance for one to take. Imagine the thrill of realizing that your best friend might just be your soulmate! That will definitely catch you off-guard.

How then, do you navigate this shift without jeopardizing the foundation of trust and connection in your relationship?

The shift

Picture this: Sarah and Mike have been close friends since college; then one day, Mike confesses his feelings for Sarah, which comes both as a surprise and a dilemma. 

Sarah, on the other hand, having cherished their friendship, isn’t sure if she has the same romantic attraction towards Mike.

Nonetheless, they decide to take it slow while communicating openly about their emotions. 

In the long run, Sarah and Mike become a couple and the key as they would reveal, is their unwavering commitment to honesty and understanding.

Tips to help you navigate this confusing time

Setting boundaries

When friends develop romantic feelings, setting clear boundaries is one of the most important steps. It’s important to have open conversations about intentions and expectations. 

It is okay to have some time apart to seek clarity and eventually transition into a romantic relationship with a solid foundation. Don’t make any decision out of sympathy, disregarding your own feelings.

When love fades

What happens when a romantic relationship ends, and you want to maintain the friendship? 

Even when you set boundaries and create respect for one another, it isn’t easy to transition back from a romantic to a platonic relationship.

You can take a break and heal individually then rekindle the relationship after sometime.

The secret? Respecting each other’s space and not rushing the process. 

Communicate openly

According to Natasha Burton, a relationship freelance writer, honesty is the cornerstone of any relationship. 

“Share your feelings and listen to theirs without judgment. This helps to understand where each one of you is coming from,” she explains.

She also goes further to describe the essence of setting clear boundaries and defining what is acceptable to prevent any form of misunderstanding between the partners involved.

 Take your time

“Time changes how we view things and ultimately aligns everything to exactly how it ought to be,” Burton says.

Whether you are transitioning from friends to lovers or vice versa, giving yourselves time to adjust is important.

Traversing the fine line between friendship and romance is undoubtedly complex, however, with understanding and honesty, it’s possible to maintain and strengthen healthy relationships.

Respecting each other’s boundaries and feelings, therefore, will help you preserve the essence of your connection, no matter where your journey together leads.

Written By
Wangari Njoroge