Where do you start after a breakup?
Its over. Maybe you have been dating for years. Its has dawned on you, the relationship must come to an end. Each has to take his/her own path and start life afresh.
Yes it has happened, the question now is where do you go from here? And how do you figure out who you are and what you want as a newly single person? What is your new life going to look like, and how do you start moving in that direction? Are you going to date instantly or you need time to mourn, feel sad and cry? Letting go is never easy. Here are some of the things you can do.
Take your time
Yes you have been heartbroken or dumped. But are you aware that out here there are so many guys who might be better and they are still single and searching?
Regardless of that fact, do not make the mistake of trying to rush things in an attempt to hurt your ex. We at times find ourselves starting a new relationship with a guy you don’t know well to prove to your ex that you have moved on. Take your time to mourn and re-organize your life.
Deal with your feelings
Letting go of what or who you loved is never easy. It’s common for people to try sweeping these emotions and feelings under the table, but you have to work through them or they’ll negatively affect your life going forward.
People always try to play tough but the memories will always linger in their minds. You will at times find yourself lamenting and asking questions. But if you want to fully move on you have to deal with those feelings you have for that person. You can keep yourself busy by engaging in a healthy activity say a sport that you love and if its tough see a therapist.
Love yourself more
After that breakup, you may be tempted to blame yourself for the failure of that relationship. You may also think that there must be something wrong with you.
However, refrain from blaming yourself and start taking care of yourself. Rediscover how to love yourself again – treat yourself and do those things that make you happy. Make yourself the priority by doing all the things you have always wanted to do, buy yourself nice things and even go on that vacation. Do that manicure and pedicure or go for that massage. Because you will not be able to love someone else before you have learnt how to love yourself again.
Rediscover yourself
When you breakup with a loved one, there is a part of you that your ex leaves with and as a result, a gap is left in your heart or life.
Hence, it’s advisable that you take the time to discover who you were before you got into that relationship. Reconnect with the things that you cherished the most. Try and find new interests and hobbies.
This is also the time to work on yourself – your character, career and also your self-confidence.
Dare to be alone
Being single is not a horrible thing. Embrace your single-hood and make it worthwhile by working on yourself. Take this time to reorganize your life, work on your future goals and become a better version of yourself.
