When you are in a relationship’s initial stages, you tend to see things through rose-coloured glasses. Everything seems like it’s headed to a lifetime of bliss. However, as the relationship progresses, the of saying ‘familiarity breeds contempt’ comes into play. Instead of letting your relationship fizzle out, there are certain things you or your partner can do to sustain the relationship.
Have some rules
Setting up ground rules may seem extreme but these are just guidelines about how you should handle any issues that arise in the course of the relationship. For instance, you can agree that once an argument arises, it has to be resorted within 24 hours(or within reason to both of you). It also includes splitting up responsibilities around the house such as bills and chores.
Allow each other to have alone time
It’s important for each of you to cultivate your own interests and identity outside of the relationship. This is why alone time is important. One can pursue interests and hobbies and as a result, it will not feel as if the relationship is smothering you. Being respectful of each other’s personal time also creates a healthy environment for your relationship to thrive.
Communication is key
It is normal for couples to have arguments and disagreements on things. However, when these build up and become resentment, it spells doom for the relationship.
Try to avoid common communication pitfalls such as raising your voice, complaining too much, walking away or scrolling your phone when your partner is talking. The key is to take time and learn how to best communicate with each other. Try to be respectful, understanding and always exercise empathy and if you’re wrong, apologise.
You would be amazed at how impactful a simple ‘thank you’ is. Most people tend to become complacent such that they forget simple acts of gratitude towards their partners. Genuinely express gratitude when they do something nice for you, even if it is a small action. It goes a long way in showing them that they are appreciated. On the same note, compliments work magic too.
Keep the intimacy alive
Most long-term couples usually complain that their intimacy has become obsolete.There is no more hand-holding, cuddling, spending time together or things that used to excite them both as when the relationship started. Most also complain of a boring sex life.
To keep the intimacy alive and spice things up in the bedroom, you have to be intentional about spending time together. Start by initiating small gestures that are sure to bring up all the feel-good hormones and move on to other things that are unique to your relationship. You can also learn how to be a better partner in bed by simply asking your significant other what they enjoy.