Creating a bond with your child

Every present parent knows that the love between a child and a parent is unmatched. In many cases, you will see parents doing their best to win their children over so that their relationship can be nothing less than warm. It would hurt a parent if their child gave them cold replies and reactions hence the need to create a strong bond with their young ones.

It becomes a challenging task to parents with more than one child, because every child is unique. Therefore, create time to bond with each child. Ask questions that are relevant and unique to them. As this sounds tasking, try having a conversation while having dinner. This way they will take turns taking and expressing their needs.

Here are a few tips on creating a strong bond with your child:

Pay attention

Have you ever been ignored when you badly needed someone to talk to? How did it feel? Now, imagine your only safe space ignoring you and threatening to beat you if you do not ‘behave.’ This is devastating to children. Taking a minute to hear your child out goes a long way. If you do not have time, then let them know, they will understand.

Boundaries

Just as relationships thrive on mutual respect so will the relationship with your child flourish. Knock before budging in. Close your eyes if they ask you to. It would be nice to know everything your child does or thinks, right? Wrong. Just as you and I have secrets, kids are allowed to have secrets. If you notice your child looks troubled, then you can remind them to come to you with their concerns. When they do open up, remember to first pay attention and then offer help.

Family fun activities

At whatever financial capacity, have things you do as a family. I remember the game drives we took as vividly as I remember helping Mum sieve tea. In this article, we highlighted the benefits of allowing your kids to participate in the kitchen.

Rapudo, a father and businessman, in an interview with ParentsAfrica, highlighted the benefits of playing with your children. He also reminded parents that playing with your kids requires the child in you.

To avoid physical and financial burnout, let them suggest places and activities they would love to do as a family. Depending on your pockets and energy level, you then decide what activity to embark on.

Be mindful of your words

As the new set of adults, we often joke that how you talk to yourself and how you let other people talk to you is a direct reflection of how your parents talked to you. Growing up, dark skin was shunned. I never felt ugly or undeserving regardless of the comments. At home, my mum washed and took care of my skin with love. Your words make and break your kids. No matter how angry you are, please breathe in and breathe out before responding.

From a former child transitioning to adulthood, I will always treasure the days my parents narrated their childhood stories. As children, we appreciate the warm meals you provide, the clothes on our backs, and the comfortable beds we have. But, we remember how your hugs feel, how your I love you sounds more. We remember when you last made us our favorite meal. And no, it does not stop when we grow up, I mean I am 24 and I look forward to the next salad my mum will prepare.