We Are the ‘Falas’: Inside Kabi wa Jesus’ Bold Defense of Marriage
When comedian and content creator Chebet Ronoh posted, “I feel like marriage hubamba mafala,” it sparked a wave of reactions across social media. The phrase , loosely translated from street slang to mean “marriage only excites naïve people” , has become the centre of a new online tug-of-war: those who believe in marriage versus those who think it’s overrated.
What began as casual internet banter has now evolved into a full-blown conversation about modern love, faith and values.
‘We Are the Mafalas’
Leading the charge on the pro-marriage side are celebrity couples like Kabi and Milly WaJesus, who proudly declared themselves “the real mafalas.”
For them, the term isn’t an insult but a badge of honour, a declaration that choosing marriage, family and faith in a world that glorifies independence is a bold and intentional decision.
“Marriage is beautiful when done right,” Kabi said in a recent video. “We are mafalas proudly because we believe in God’s design for family.”
Other couples have echoed this sentiment, turning it into a celebration of love, partnership and the joy of building life together, even when it’s not easy.
A Generation Divided
On the other side, a section of young Kenyans, many of them single or previously married, argue that society romanticizes marriage while overlooking its struggles.
They claim that the pressure to marry early or to stay in unhappy unions, often traps people in cycles of emotional or financial strain.
“Not everyone dreams of a wedding,” one user wrote on X . “Some of us dream of peace, independence and self-fulfillment.”
For them, the “ marriage hubamba mafala” statement isn’t an attack, it’s a reflection of disillusionment with modern relationships and the perceived hypocrisy of some “perfect couple” influencers.
Beyond the Banter: What Are We Really Talking About?
At its core, this “marriage war” mirrors a generational shift in how people define happiness and success.
Older generations often saw marriage as a rite of passage, the natural next step after adulthood. But today’s youth are redefining fulfillment and for many, that doesn’t necessarily include a spouse.
Yet, even as opinions clash, one truth remains: marriage continues to hold deep meaning for those who choose it. Whether for companionship, faith, or family, love, in all its forms, remains something most people long for.
Why It Matters
For parents, this conversation is crucial. It shapes how young people view family, commitment, and even parenting itself. As online opinions get louder, the need for real, honest conversations about relationships grows stronger.
Marriage may not “bamba” everyone but understanding, respect and choice should.
