A statement by Kenyan artist MrMistariful has sparked a nationwide conversation on parenting, language, and what truly defines intelligence in children.
In a widely circulated clip, the artist challenged parents to rethink the pressure they place on their children to master English, arguing that fluency in the language should not be mistaken for brilliance.
“Struggle na vitu zote but nisilipate ukistruggle kufunza watoto kizungu ati ndio wakuwe yeye ni mwerevu sana… we are not doing that in 2026.” he said. “English is not a measure of intelligence”
His sentiments have resonated with many, while also drawing criticism, highlighting a deep-rooted societal belief that children who speak fluent English are more intelligent or better raised.
A long-held perception
For decades, English has been viewed as a symbol of education and exposure in many Kenyan households. Children who articulate themselves well in English are often praised, sometimes more than their peers who may excel in other areas but communicate in local languages.
However, this perception is increasingly being questioned.
Renowned author Ngũgĩ wa Thiong’o has long argued that language is central to identity and culture, and that prioritising foreign languages over native ones can disconnect children from their roots.
The reality parents face
Despite the criticism of “English-only” parenting, many parents feel they have limited options.
English remains the primary language of instruction in schools and is widely used in professional and global spaces. For this reason, some parents insist that giving their children a strong foundation in English is not about showing off, but about preparing them for future opportunities.
As one parent reacted online, “It’s not a measure of intelligence, yes, but hatuna choice. It’s the language of doing business worldwide.”
When language becomes a barrier
While English is undeniably important, experts warn against making it the only language a child is exposed to.
Children raised exclusively in English-speaking environments may:
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Struggle to communicate with extended family members
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Feel isolated in social settings where local languages dominate
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Be perceived as shy or withdrawn, when in reality they are facing a language barrier
Language is more than communication, it shapes a child’s sense of belonging and identity.
Striking a balance
Rather than abandoning English or over-prioritising it, parents are encouraged to adopt a balanced approach.
Children are naturally capable of learning multiple languages, especially at a young age. Introducing both English and indigenous languages allows them to thrive in diverse environments while staying connected to their cultural background.
Simple steps such as speaking mother tongue at home, encouraging interaction with relatives, and allowing children to learn English organically through school can make a significant difference.
Redefining intelligence
At the core of this debate is a need to redefine how intelligence is perceived.
Fluency in English does not equate to intelligence. A child’s ability to think critically, solve problems, and express themselves confidently, in any language, is what truly matters.
A necessary conversation
MrMistariful’s remarks may have divided opinion, but they have succeeded in sparking an important discussion among parents.
In a rapidly evolving world, raising well-rounded children requires more than language proficiency. It calls for a thoughtful balance between global readiness and cultural grounding, ensuring children not only succeed, but also know who they are.
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