Why Many Marriages End Up in Divorce Nowadays – Milly wa Jesus Speaks

In an era where divorce rates are steadily rising and social media paints picture-perfect relationships, Milly wa Jesus;  a content creator, mother of three, and advocate for healthy marriages, is calling couples back to the foundation of what she believes keeps marriages strong: God’s kind of love.

Milly, who has been married to her husband Kabi wa Jesus for eight years, has been vocal about the realities of marriage. Behind their fun, family-centered content lies a couple that has weathered storms, learned hard lessons, and chosen to grow through faith.

In one of her recent reflections, Milly shared a perspective that many found both challenging and refreshing:

“They lied when they said love is not enough. People call anything love and then blame love when it fails.”

According to her, the problem isn’t that love fails, it’s that many people start marriages on the wrong definition of love. In a generation that equates love with emotions, romance, or mutual goals, Milly believes the essence has been lost.

“God is love. Build a home outside of love (God) and you have already failed,” she emphasized.

She goes on to explain that love isn’t butterflies in your stomach or endless romantic gestures , it’s a choice, a discipline, and a reflection of God’s character. Referencing 1 Corinthians 13:4–7, she describes love as patient, kind, not self-seeking, and always protecting, trusting, hoping, and persevering.

“Love isn’t emotions or feelings. Love is what the Bible says it is,” she said.

Milly admits that, for a long time, she and Kabi misunderstood what true love looked like.

“We had mistaken financial alignment, teamwork, kids, and goals for love… until we went back to 1 Corinthians 13,” she shared.

After nearly a decade of marriage, the couple realized that while those things are important, they are not the foundation of a lasting relationship.

“Eight years in  and we’ve realized love doesn’t fade… it just needs God,” she said.

Their renewed understanding of love has become the center of their marriage and the heart of their ministry to other couples. Through their platform, The WaJesus Family, they often share real conversations about communication, forgiveness, intimacy, and faith;  topics many couples shy away from discussing publicly.

Milly’s message is clear: without God, even the best-looking marriages can crumble. She urges couples to invite God into every aspect of their union, from decision-making and finances to conflict resolution and parenting.

“Try doing marriage with God this time,” she advises.

Her words have resonated deeply with her audience, many of whom say they now see love and marriage from a more grounded perspective.

As the world continues to redefine what love and success in relationships look like, Milly’s reminder is both timely and timeless: when love is rooted in God, it endures.